9 TIPS FOR FOREIGNERS ON FINDING LOVE IN THE PHILIPPINES

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The Philippines is very much well-known for its amazing sceneries, breathtaking white sand beaches, rich history and culture, and exquisite cuisine. But perhaps the most amazing thing about the country is its people. Filipinos are one of the most hospitable, warm, and optimistic people you will ever meet. The Filipinas are also one of the most beautiful women on earth, with their tan skins, captivating smiles, and intellect, it is no question why most foreigners who visit the country does not only fall in love with the splendor of the place but also fall in love with the Filipinas they meet.

They say “Filipinas make the best girlfriends/wives” for they are loving, caring, loyal, intelligent, respectful, and truly beautiful with a heart. A lot of foreign men long to have a Filipina wife and envy their colleagues who happens to have found a Filipina lover. Some men from around the world would even travel thousands of miles just to visit the country in hopes of finding their love. Moreover, the rise in popularity of dating sites on the internet makes this task easier to accomplish for some.

However, finding love in the country is not as easy as travelling to the country or signing up on a Filipina dating site. Below are some of the tips for foreigners to keep in mind when trying to win over the hearts of the lovely Filipina.

1. Be honest about what you are looking for

As clichéd as it sounds, honesty is always the best policy in whatever thing you do, especially when you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with. Be honest in your preferences whether it be their physical features or attitude. The Philippines has more than enough beautiful women to offer whatever your preference would be.

Also, you need to be honest about who you are. You don’t need to pretend someone you’re not just to impress a girl, Filipinas are hard to get but they are not hard to impress. They will appreciate you more if you will be honest all throughout.

2. Do your research

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This must be one of the first thing you should do before visiting the country or setting up a Filipina-dating site account. Research about the culture, customs, and traditions of the country in order for you not to be culture shocked. Look up about the type of people you will probably meet and effective ways to deal with them.

3. Keep an open mind

Visiting the Philippines or dating a Filipina will expose you to new things and open your eyes to new perspectives in life. These differences in culture and views can cause problems between you and the person you are dating/courting if not dealt with an open mind. Keep an open mind for you to easily adapt and to be able to share your culture and perspectives also.

4. Learn basic words

This might seem to be one of the most unusual tip on this list but it is actually one of the most important. Learning basic words would make it more convenient for you in dealing with locals and shows that you have respect for the people you interact with. This will also show to the one you are courting/dating that you are exerting effort in trying to lessen the language barrier between the two of you.

Although most Filipinas understand English and are fluent in speaking the language, you’ll be surprised how kilig they would be when you say mahal kita or ang ganda mo to them in your heavily accented voice.

5. Focus on one person at a time

When coming to the Philippines or just using a dating account, you would expect that a lot of Filipina will try to catch your attention. While it is not wrong to entertain many of them, it is better to focus on one person that you think you make a great connection with. Give them a chance by giving them your full attention. They may not be your true love but at least have given them the opportunity to be.

6. Be aware of the culture you are interacting with

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Culture may vary significantly from country to country. People with different culture may respond differently to things from what you expect. They also vary in ways of expressing attraction; unlike other western country, Filipinas are more conservative and less liberated. Often, you don’t expect them to act upon their attraction to you and initiate the first move. You should not also expect for things to happen between the two of you on your first or second meeting. You might also want to avoid being too touchy as this might make them really uncomfortable. However, you will definitely know and feel if they are really into you.

7. Show respect to the Filipina’s Family

Filipinos in general, value their family more than anything else in the world. Unlike other countries, one does not just move out of the house and only care for him/herself once they reach a certain age. They maintain a very close tie with their families, and more often than not, you will need to court them as well before you could get a Filipina’s ‘yes’.

Never insult or show disrespect towards any member of their family. Treat them with respect and love the same way you want to be treated. This is very important since many Filipina seek their family’s advice before deciding to settle with you.

8. Don’t be judgmental

News of foreigners getting scammed by their Filipina partners might be heard sometimes, but these are actually more like of isolated cases. There is also this prejudice against Filipinas that they are only after your green card and will only marry foreigners for a greener pasture. Although there are cases like these, there are still a greater number of good and real ones out there. While it is not wrong to doubt sometimes, you should not let your vision be clouded with these biases when dealing with Filipinas. Give them a chance to prove themselves worthy of your time, attention, and love.

9. Be patient

Lastly, you should always be patient. The road to finding a Filipina lover might not be easy, but the prize at the end is absolutely worth it. The courting process might take months and even years before they give you their sweet yes. This is because they want to make sure that the man they would choose is the perfect one for them as well. They are lifetime partners and not a casual fling. They are rare gems, they might be hard to mine but their beauty, shine, and value is priceless.